Suggestions On Handling Your Ex-Boyfriend
You've gone and done it, haven't you? Even with all the convincing that you were done and that you were going to stick to your guns and not hook up with your ex even though you still had feelings, you wen't and made the regretful decision of hooking up with him, what you told yourself would be one last time.
There's also the possibility that because of this you now want him back more than ever. It's ok. It happens all the time. But hopefully, your intention is to get him back because you really want to make it work this time and reignite his emotions for you so he wants you back as well and not just for a booty-call.
It may seem like a seemingly innocent thing to do when you're in love with a man, but often times this may not be the best approach.
Even though it may make sense in your head, that if you hook up with him, he'll start to feel emotion for you again, it'll make him want you again, right? Unfortunately not. If you really want to make this work second time around then you have to approach the situation from a different angle. And the secret here is take yourself out of the equation, let him feel what it's like to not have you and play that angle to your advantage. The more he wants what he can't have, the more he's going to fight to have you back.
There's also the possibility that because of this you now want him back more than ever. It's ok. It happens all the time. But hopefully, your intention is to get him back because you really want to make it work this time and reignite his emotions for you so he wants you back as well and not just for a booty-call.
It may seem like a seemingly innocent thing to do when you're in love with a man, but often times this may not be the best approach.
Even though it may make sense in your head, that if you hook up with him, he'll start to feel emotion for you again, it'll make him want you again, right? Unfortunately not. If you really want to make this work second time around then you have to approach the situation from a different angle. And the secret here is take yourself out of the equation, let him feel what it's like to not have you and play that angle to your advantage. The more he wants what he can't have, the more he's going to fight to have you back.
How to make your ex want you again
As I said above you have to make him want what he can't have. Therefore if you stop giving into him, stop calling/texting him, stop trying to get at him he's never going to feel what it's like to not have you anymore. You have to remove yourself from the equation. Give him time to experience life without you. Without your texts/calls. Without your interest and attraction for him. Let him fly solo and make him think you're no longer interested.
After about a month he'll likely text you randomly out of the blue to see how you are. The real reason he's texting is to see how you've all of a sudden lost interest in him, seemingly overnight. This is a major blow to his ego and it will need to be justified and understood by him. But you have to play it cool like you've just been doing your thing. He wanted a breakup so you're giving him one. If he's not satisifed maybe he ought to rethink his position?
How He'll Hurt you if you keep at him
If you don't do this and keep giving him attention he's going to get annoyed with you. You're going to look weak, desperate and needy - like your life depends on him to keep you happy. And if that is truly the case you don't deserve him. Instead you need to learn how to have a better relationship with yourself first before you seek it with someone else.
Before you can get at your ex again you need to get your shit together. You need to get stable emotionally, mentally and physically. If your ex sees you broken down it's not going to appeal to his sympathies and make him want you again. It's going to turn him off.
But if he see's you doing better in your life now that you're no together it's going to make him interested indeed. If you're all of a sudden looking hotter, more confident, happier and seemingly unaffected by the breakup he's going to think he was the reason why the relationship didn't work. He'll then remember why he fell for you in the first place and fight to have you back.
As I said above you have to make him want what he can't have. Therefore if you stop giving into him, stop calling/texting him, stop trying to get at him he's never going to feel what it's like to not have you anymore. You have to remove yourself from the equation. Give him time to experience life without you. Without your texts/calls. Without your interest and attraction for him. Let him fly solo and make him think you're no longer interested.
After about a month he'll likely text you randomly out of the blue to see how you are. The real reason he's texting is to see how you've all of a sudden lost interest in him, seemingly overnight. This is a major blow to his ego and it will need to be justified and understood by him. But you have to play it cool like you've just been doing your thing. He wanted a breakup so you're giving him one. If he's not satisifed maybe he ought to rethink his position?
How He'll Hurt you if you keep at him
If you don't do this and keep giving him attention he's going to get annoyed with you. You're going to look weak, desperate and needy - like your life depends on him to keep you happy. And if that is truly the case you don't deserve him. Instead you need to learn how to have a better relationship with yourself first before you seek it with someone else.
Before you can get at your ex again you need to get your shit together. You need to get stable emotionally, mentally and physically. If your ex sees you broken down it's not going to appeal to his sympathies and make him want you again. It's going to turn him off.
But if he see's you doing better in your life now that you're no together it's going to make him interested indeed. If you're all of a sudden looking hotter, more confident, happier and seemingly unaffected by the breakup he's going to think he was the reason why the relationship didn't work. He'll then remember why he fell for you in the first place and fight to have you back.
By doing it this way, and approaching the situation from this angle you completely change the expected dynamic of him having all of the power over you. All of a sudden the power is in your favor and he has no idea how or why you were able to bounce back from him so easily.
But the best part from all of this is that it'll make him remember why he fell in love with you. And that is where you will get your leverage back. Once you have that leverage over him you simply play the situation the way you did when you first met him, attracted his attention, and got him to ask you out.
You play it the exact same way. If you were able to attract him once before you can ALWAYS do it again as long as you play the situation from a higher position than one of desperation and neediness. These are just some simple ideas of how this works and doesn't really cover the step by step actions you need to take in order to get this stuff to really work for you.
To get more information on these kinds of tips and how to make them work for you, make sure to check out Respark His Heart for more tips and tricks and step by step actions you can take to start getting your man back to you like a magnet.
But the best part from all of this is that it'll make him remember why he fell in love with you. And that is where you will get your leverage back. Once you have that leverage over him you simply play the situation the way you did when you first met him, attracted his attention, and got him to ask you out.
You play it the exact same way. If you were able to attract him once before you can ALWAYS do it again as long as you play the situation from a higher position than one of desperation and neediness. These are just some simple ideas of how this works and doesn't really cover the step by step actions you need to take in order to get this stuff to really work for you.
To get more information on these kinds of tips and how to make them work for you, make sure to check out Respark His Heart for more tips and tricks and step by step actions you can take to start getting your man back to you like a magnet.